What 2018 has taught me

Hello my darlings and Happy New Year!! I hope you all had a wonderful new year eve’s and new years day! Can you believe it’s already 2019!? Seems crazy right! 2018 has been one hell of year for me! From struggling with my physical and mental health, to saying “I do” to my best friend, and wrapping up the year with a truly once in a lifetime honeymoon trip, 2018 has been packed full of memories. Through the memories, this year has also taught me a lot so I thought for today, I would write a post about the lessons 2018 has given me. So here are 8 things this past year has taught me, hope you enjoy! 🙂

  1. Nothing is ever going to go exactly how you picture/planned, but that’s okay

After spending over a year planning our Disney themed wedding, I had a clear picture of how I wanted every detail of that day to go. No matter what other people told me, I couldn’t let go of that picture and kept saying, “Oh, I won’t be that bride.” Well..I was that bride. Our wedding was amazing but I would be lying if I said every detail went exactly how I wanted it to. But in the end, all those little details didn’t really matter. All that mattered was I got to marry my best friend and I wish I had enjoyed more of the planning process instead of obsessing over every detail. In the same way, I had this picture in my head that by the wedding, Tom and I would have our own place. This also never materialized and though that was tough to handle, I know now that at that time, it wasn’t the right time for us to have a home. 2018 has shown me that just because you have a picture in your mind of how you want something to go, it will more than likely, never go exactly like that but that is okay. Because in the end, even if we don’t know it, we are exactly where we are supposed to be and as long as you’re surrounded by loving friends and family, any event will be special. Even if every detail doesn’t go as planned.

  1. You’re not alone, remember to lean on your friends and family

There were many moments this year where I felt alone. Wedding planning stress mixed with trying to find a house mixed with just generic health issues had me at my breaking point numerous times. Being the stubborn person I am, I convinced myself I was alone in all of this but in reality, I wasn’t. I have some of the most amazing friends, family, and now husband around me and once I let down my guard and I let them help me, this weight was lifted off my shoulder and I could smile again. 2018 was a year full of memories with some of my best girlfriends and throughout all of it, I believe it really brought us closer together and I can not wait to see the memories we will make in 2019. It’s hard sometimes to believe we aren’t alone when we are going through difficult times. It’s even harder when you suffer from a mental illness that basically convinces you that you are alone in this but the truth is, you’re not. When your going through something stressful, don’t isolate yourself and hide but instead, lean on the ones closest to you, because I guarantee you, once you do, you’ll realize just how loved you are and whatever your dealing with, won’t seem so big anymore.

  1. Home is not always a place

Besides for planning a wedding, my main focus this entire year was trying to buy a house, a home. Our living situation is not the best but after constant disappointment and struggles, I realized something very important. Home isn’t always a place. You could have a huge, two-story house but if it’s not filled with love, all it is is a building. 2018 taught me that my home is with my husband and our two fur babies. It doesn’t matter if we are living in his mom’s house, my grandmas, or our own house, as long as we are together, I know i’m home.

  1. Change can be difficult but it’s inevitable

This year brought two major changes to my life. One good and one bad. Obviously, the good change is that I’m a wife now. Getting married is something I have dreamed about since I was a little girl and it’s still so unreal to me that I really am married. This was a welcomed change. I won’t say it wasn’t scary because it definitely was but it’s a change I am very happy to have happened in my life. On the other hand, losing a job I had been a part of since graduating high school, was a change that brought sadness and still affects me. Though at times my job was difficult, I really did enjoy working in student financial services at my local college. The best part was having so many supportive co-workers who became a second family to me. I knew my temporary position would come to an end in November but it didn’t hurt any less. I’m still struggling with this change. That job was all I’ve known for 4 years and having to now find a new job is beyond stressful to me. But 2018 showed me that you can’t stop change, it’s going to happen. The only thing you can control, is how you deal with that change. Though I am still very upset about my job ending, i’m trying to look at it as an open door and a chance to find a career that i’m meant to be in. A career that truly makes me happy. So even though I know it’s tough, next time a difficult change happens in your life, try to look at what the bright side could be. You never know, it could be the start of the best years of your life.

  1. It’s okay to splurge and treat yourself now and then but not everyone is going to agree with you

After planning and paying for a wedding basically on our own, Tom and I were ready to just get away. We were extremely blessed to be able to take a two and a half week honeymoon that including going to three, well 7 if you count the ports, places. We started our honeymoon in North Carolina, than Walt Disney World, and finally, an 8 day eastern Caribbean carnival cruise to Grand Turk, Puerto Rico, St. Kitts, and St. Maarten. This truly was a once-in-a-lifetime trip for us and I am so beyond grateful and happy that we got to experience all we did in those two and a half weeks as newlyweds. However, before going, we got some hate from family members. They believed we were wasting our money and going away for way to long. It was hard to block them out but in the end, we both knew we needed this honeymoon after such a stressful year. 2018 showed me that not everyone is going to agree with your decisions but you have to follow your heart and know that it’s okay to splurge now and then.

  1. Exercise and healthy eating is the best medicine

2018 was the year Tom and I finally joined our local gym. Both of us wanted to get more in shape for the wedding but more than just weight loss for me, the gym became a place where I felt at peace. I had always been told that exercise and eating healthy works wonders for anxiety and depression but I was always too stubborn and lazy to try. Once I got engaged though, I knew I wanted to be healthier before walking down that aisle so I let Tom convince me to join the gym and that was one of the best decisions I made this past year. Working out provides me with clarity,energy, and just a sense of happiness and purpose that I don’t always feel. I absolutely love going to the gym and even though I haven’t been in a while due to all the wedding, honeymoon,and holiday stress, I can not wait to return this week. 2018 showed me that exercise really does do wonders so next time someone suggests trying the gym to help with anxiety and/or depression, don’t just ignore them but try it. You never know how therapeutic it can be.

  1. Remember to document the memories, not just the place

As many of you know, I love to take pictures, videos, and write about memories I have made. Documenting my life is something that is both fun and therapeutic for me. This year, I have also got into vlogging more serious and hope by the end of 2019, will have a YouTube channel up and running to share that side of my life. Though I took probably over 1000 photos on my honeymoon, one thing I noticed was many of my photos were of the places or things around me. 2018 showed me that it’s not the place that is important, but the memory and the people you share these experiences with that is important to document. 20 years from now, I want to look in a photo album and see pictures of my husband and I on the beach in Grand Turk vs. just a plain beach picture. Though I took some like this, I really wish I took more. Especially when it comes to the videos I took. So next time your documenting a moment, remember that it’s the people who are most important to capture and the beauty of the place is just a bonus.

  1. But also know when to just savor the moment and put the camera down

As important as documenting may be, you also need to know when to just put the camera down and savor the moment. Though Tom loves to take pictures and video too, he is a heavy believer in just savoring certain moments. When we were in Disney, we got to witness the Happily Ever After Fireworks and also were given a wishing key to hold and make a wish on during the show. I was so determined to capture the fireworks on video, that even though we made a wish and I shed some tears because of how beautiful the display was, I feel in my heart I didn’t get to savor such a special moment with my husband because I was too focused on recording the show to watch later. 2018 has shown me that it’s okay to want to document everything, but just know that some things are only meant to be saved in a memory. Some moments will be 10x more special if they are just moments shared with the person or people around you and not photographed or videotaped to see in the future.

So there you have it, 8 things 2018 has taught me. Like I said in my last post, 2018 has been the happiest, yet, most difficult year of my life. It was filled with memories and laughter but also disappointment and tears, but through it all, 2018 was truly an unforgettable year and one that taught me so much. So now I ask you, what is something 2018 taught you this year? Drop a comment down below and as alway, I hope you enjoyed reading this!

Until next time,

Kaylee D. ❤

2018, The year of Change

2018, The year of Change

 

I can’t even wrap my head over the fact that today is the last day of 2018. This year has been one of the most difficult but also most joyish years of my life. The memories I have made throughout this year are some of the most important memories I know I will ever have and I feel beyond blessed this year to have experienced all that I got to experience. Because of this, I thought it would be fun to write an overview of my year type blog post, highlighting the top moments, good and bad, that have shaped my 2018. Before I begin though, I am aware that it has been a long time since I last posted a blog post and I am so sad that that is the case. My life has been pretty crazy since the wedding but my goal in the next few weeks is to post many different blog posts catching you all up on my beautiful wedding, amazing mini moon/honeymoon, and just life in general. But for today, if you would like to read more about the best year of my life, just keep on reading. 🙂

 

January

The first month of the year I started off by saying that this was going to be my “perfect” year. Sitting here today, I have learned that there is no such thing as “Perfect”. One of the biggest lessons 2018 has taught me is nothing is ever going to go as “perfect” as you think, but that’s for another blog post. Though this is true, I really did find the perfect for me wedding gown and in the beginning of January, my grandmother bought it for me and we picked out the bridesmaid dresses from David’s Bridal. Finding such a picture perfect princess gown was something I had dreamed of since I was a little girl and I remember when I turned and faced the mirror for the first time, I couldn’t help but smile. In that moment, it became real to me that in 9 months, I was going to be walking down the aisle to my best friend in this dress. No words can truly express how I felt in that moment and I am so happy that I had one of my bridesmaids record that moment for me.

February

My happy moment though, did not last long because that following month, I became very sick. The first couple weeks of february were straight hell. In and out of urgent care, the emergency room, not being able to eat solid food,dehydrated constantly, being told I was fine when I felt like I was dying and finally going through an endoscopy to learn that I had gastritis and an hiatal hernia. Throughout all of that, I also started to suffer heavily with depersonalization and dissociation symptoms. Now I had experienced these before but never this strong and unfortunately, these would continue to affect me for most of 2018. Though the beginning part of february was probably the hardest weeks physically and mentally of my life, the month ended with me finally getting the stomach medication I needed, celebrating valentines day for the first time as an engaged couple, registering at Bed, Bath, and Beyond, and finally, Tom leasing a 2018 honda civic hatchback.

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March

March brought another first for Tom and I, our first overnight trip away together just the two of us. March 21st marked 5 years since Tom and I became an official couple and even though every year we tried to go away for our anniversary, something always happened that made our plans fall through. This year was different though. This year, we finally went away and even if it was just one night near Mohegan Sun, it was such a fun and special trip for the two of us. Not only did I get to taste my first warm Krispy Kreme doughnut, I also got to gamble for the first time and spend quality time with my husband to be.

April

To help booked couples see how their wedding reception will go, Fox Hill Inn has a mini reception/tasting each year specifically for booked couples. April was the month Tom and I finally got to experience a taste of what our wedding night would be. We got to taste a bunch of different delicious food, dance some, and even get a special deal on different wedding day stations for our guests. This fox hill mini reception was definitely the highlight of April for me because it really got me excited for my wedding and also relaxed me on some of the details for that day.

May

May, however, was another month where there were good moments, but also defining tough ones. For the good, May was the month we selected our wedding menu, I decided to get my hair dyed blonde ombre, Megan had her Bridal shower and probably the most important moment of all, I finally graduated DCC after 4 years with an associates in general studies. May though was also the month I had my last therapy session with a therapist I really loved and trusted. When Lori informed me she would be leaving, I felt my entire world turn upside down. Lori made me feel less crazy, she believed in me and she respected my medication fear. Losing her was beyond hard but the things she had taught me in the months prior were things I was able to carry with me and though I know I will eventually have to find a new therapist, Lori showed me i’m not as broken or messed up as I once believed.

June

June was a happy month. Adrian, my best friend’s son, turned one and we had a wonderful birthday party for him. It was so unreal to me that he was already 1 when it seemed like just yesterday he was this infant lexi placed in my arms. Watching him grow was definitely one of my favorite parts of this past year. My cousin Michael and his fiance Megan got married which caused Tom to finally get to go to a wedding. That day was just filled with love and once again, really made me excited for my upcoming nuptials in 4 months. I also got a job as a temporary program assistant in my office which brought much more responsibility to my life and though at times this job would make me want to scream, I am so happy I was able to have had that experience. Lastly, June was the month where me and my girls finally did a pre-wedding activity and went to the Bronx zoo together. We even made minnie mouse hats to wear so everyone knew this was a pre-bachelorette outing!

July

July was also a fun month. Tom turned 23 and we went on our annual Ocean City NJ vacation trip with my family from Pennsylvania. Like always, that trip was nothing but fun but this year it was so sentimental thinking back to last July when Tom popped the question at the top of the wonder wheel. July was also the month that Tom and I got pre-approved for a mortgage. At the time, I cried with happiness but my little naive self was not prepared for all that was soon going to hit me because of it.

August

August began with a camping trip to Gilberts Lake with Tom, my soon to be brother and sister in laws and Victoria’s fiance. What started off as a trip I was dreading, became a highlight of my entire year and one of the most fun trips I had been on in a long time. The following weekend, I walked into my surprise Bridal shower which was also so much fun and Tom and I wound up getting so many amazing gifts. We sent out our wedding invitations to our guests and than got hit with the first of a few house disappointments. When a house we had fallen in love with accepted an offer that wasn’t ours, I was heartbroken. It was like I saw my future in front of me and with a phone call it had all broken away. Slowly though, with Toms help, I got over losing that “perfect” home and we continued our house hunting.

September

In September, my girls and I went on another pre-bachelorette outing and went to Six Flags for the day. I got my hair dyed back to my natural brunette color and my baby girl Luna turned 2 years old. This month I also hit 50 followers on this blog and though it doesn’t seem like a lot, it meant the world to me. Which is partly why, sitting here now, I feel so sad because I hate not posting here for all of you but life and mental illness have just gotten in the way so much and have prevented me from having any motivation to write lately. I can only hope that 2019 will be the year where I really do keep up with my blog and also, finally, start a youtube channel.

October

October. Oh October. This was the month that highlighted my entire year. I had an amazing bachelorette weekend at Mohegan Sun with my girls, a fun-filled rehearsal dinner and after party at Olive Garden and Round one, a relaxing salon day the day before the wedding with my girls and of course, the most important event of all of 2018, my wedding day. October 28th 2018 was the day I finally married my best friend, my soul mate, and the love of my life. Our Disney themed wedding was a day straight out of a story book and better than anything I could have ever dreamed of. After our wedding, we also got to have a wonderful mini-moon at Cove Haven which was the perfect way to end such a fairytale month. It’s crazy to think I started October 2018 as Kaylee DeMarco but ended it as Kaylee D’Ascanio.

November

Our actual honeymoon started in November. But November was also the month that my position at DCC ended which also ended my 4 year long job in the student financial services office. Having to leave a job I love and more importantly, coworkers who had became family was one of the hardest things I had to do and something I’m still struggling with. But when I think of November, I think of our magical honeymoon. Leaving the day after thanksgiving, we began our honeymoon in North Carolina where I finally got to meet Tom’s family down there. After 4 days there, we headed to Florida where I finally got to experience all the Magic of Disney World. I won’t lie, I cried when I saw the castle for the first time. Ending November in the happiest place on earth, well, I couldn’t ask for anything better.

December

The start of December, Tom and I boarded our 8 day Eastern Caribbean Carnival cruise, our last part to our magical honeymoon. We got to visit Puerto Rico, St. Maarten, Grand Turk, and St. Kitts. When we returned, it was back to the real world but my annual cousin shopping trip with grandma for christmas, my 23rd birthday, and Christmas itself all helped to make the adjustment from paradise to back home a little less stressful.

And that brings us to today, December 31st 2018. The last day of such an incredible year. As you can see, this year brought many ups, as well as some downs. I started off this year as a fiance and am ending it as a wife. I hope you enjoyed reading this post about my 2018 but now I want to hear from you. Tell me in the comments below what was one defining moment for you in 2018. If you enjoyed this post, especially the pieces about our wedding, mini moon, and honeymoon, than please keep your eye out because my plan is to post a lot about these three things in this upcoming month! Until than, Happy new years everyone! I hope 2018 was a great year for you and I hope that 2019 will be even better! 🙂 

Until next time,

Kaylee D. ❤

20 Tips for a Kick-ass Bachelorette Party!

Hello my darlings!

Can you believe October is already half over! Time is honestly flying by! As many of you know, my wedding is literally around the corner, 12 days away to be exact, and to say I am stressed out is an understatement! Thankfully though, I was able to escape all the wedding planning stress this past weekend and just get away with my girls for what turned out to be a pretty amazing Bachelorette weekend! So today I thought it would be fun to share with you all what my girls and I did this past weekend through a 20 tips for a kick-ass bachelorette party blog post! Below you will find 15 different tips that I followed this weekend plus 5 other tips that I wish I had followed along with some pictures from this truly crazy weekend! So if you want to learn more, just keep on reading! 🙂

 

#1: If you can, go for a whole weekend

From the very beginning of planning out my bachelorette weekend, I had wanted to go from Friday to Sunday. Unfortunately, due to money and work schedules, we were only able to do a Saturday to Sunday getaway. Even though we all had a great time, some things felt rush and I definitely wish we had that extra day and night to do stuff so if you can make it work, I highly recommend getting away for a full weekend with your girls. Remember, you’re only going to have one bachelorette party, you might as well make it the best you can!

#2: Buy and wear special outfits for your Bachelorette weekend

Your bachelorette weekend is all about you and what better way to show this than to wear an outfit that screams you are a bride-to-be. Pick out an all white outfit that you feel your absolute best in. Make sure to take into account what the weekend will consist of so you don’t under or over dress however. If you don’t know where exactly you’re going that weekend because it is a surprise, have your maid of honor or bridesmaids just give you a clue on the dress code. For myself, I knew I was going to Mohegan sun and we planned to hit the clubs and the casino so I chose a more club like attire for the first night. I picked out white skinny jeans and this button up white long sleeve crop top from Charlotte Russe as my Bachelorette night outfit and I couldn’t be happier with how it looked. I added this flower crown with a small veil from Icing to top off the whole bride look and for some of the night, also wore one of my bridesmaid over the knee heeled black boots (more on that later). I truly felt more confident than I had in a long time walking out in that outfit which set the tone for the whole night! On Sunday, since we were going to the aquarium, I simply chose to wear my Bride T-shirt from David’s Bridal and high waisted jeans from Charlotte Russe with a cardigan. I also wore my bridal flower crown because why not! Like I said, you’re only a bride once, why not live it up!

#3: Buy either buttons or sashes for you and your crew to wear that weekend.

Just like you want everyone to know you’re the soon to be bride, you also want everyone to know who your bridesmaids are. You can either use buttons or sashes for this. I chose to pick up some Bride and Bride’s crew pink and black buttons from Spencers for my girls and since I had 6 people coming including my mom and soon to be mother in law, it worked perfectly because the package came with 6 bride’s crew buttons and one bride one.

 

#4: Figure out a timeline for the night

This one we did, however, we planned the wrong timeline. We decided to first get all ready and dolled up at the hotel and drink some before heading out to dinner. We then went from the restaurant to Mohegan Sun. Though this worked out fine, if we had altered the timeline instead to going out for dinner first and than going back to the hotel to get ready and pre-game, we all would have drank more and been more tipsy by the time we got to Mohegan and therefore wouldn’t have bought as many drinks as we did. Even though we did pregame some, (my maid of honor and one bridesmaid finished an entire bottle of wine), the buzz had definitely worn off by the time we got to Mohegan sun. Which brings me to my next tip;

#5: Bring alcohol and pre-game at the hotel

Buying and bringing alcohol to drink in the hotel before heading to the club/bar, will save you money in the long run. Now of course this only works if you have someone as your DD or you’re taking an Uber or taxi but if that is the case, I highly recommend it. I wish I had gotten to drink more of the Mikes that I had brought instead of just two and a half before heading out.

#6: DIY Koozies

I knew I had wanted to get custom Koozies for the girls and me for this weekend but found them to be quite expensive through Etsy. Instead, I ordered plain white and blue koozies from amazon and using acrylic paint, painted each one in each girls respective color. To go with my Disney theme. I wrote Happily Ever After Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor/Mother of the Bride/Mother of the Groom/ Bride. I think they came out pretty good and my girls loved them!

#7: Penis Straws…need I say more

What’s a bachelorette party without some Penis things. A perfect way to incorporate this without being over the top are these cool penis straws I got from Spencers. I got the colorful pack but they also have a pack with glow in the dark ones. Add that to a #bride cup and you’re all set!

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#8: Invest in a Polaroid camera

This is something I will be getting before my mini moon and honeymoon because it made for some really cute vintage themed photos. One of my bridesmaids brought hers with us and it was such a fun way to capture some of the memories from our trip. My maid of Honor picked up these really cute glitter frames from Marshalls and together, it made for a great memento from a weekend away with my girls.

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#9: Pick a fun restaurant with your favorite food to eat at

My favorite food by far is steak so it was a no brainier we would go to some sort of steakhouse for dinner. Since Texas Roadhouse was the closest to our hotel, we decided to go there and i’m so happy we did. Not only did I get some really delicious prime rib and shared a really fruity alcoholic beverage with my girls, I also got to ride on a saddle while my girls cheered as our waiter announced to the entire restaurant I was “celebrating my last few days of freedom”. The whole moment was one that made for some great pictures and an even better video.

 

#10: Don’t over eat or stuff yourself

Though it might be tempting, try not to over eat or stuff yourself when out for your weekend. At Texas roadhouse, I really wanted to eat multiple rolls and get cheese fries but knowing I had a long night of dancing and drinking ahead of me, I made sure to eat light since I know my stomach. Plus, if you’re going someplace where there is food, you don’t want to overeat at the first place of the night and have no room for treats later.

#11: Wear cute but comfortable shoes

This is something I know to do yet somehow let two of my bridesmaids talk me into wearing one of theirs over the knee black heeled boots. We weren’t even at Margaritaville for 10 minutes before my feet hurt so bad I had to take them off. Thankfully, my mom was willing to let me wear her long dark brown flat boots and she bought herself a pair of Toms from the shoe store within Mohegan Sun. If you know your going somewhere with a lot of walking, dancing or standing, wear shoes that you feel comfortable being in for a long night to avoid any barefoot scenarios.

#12: Have all your bridesmaid wear one color

This is something I wish I had coordinated but for some reason didn’t. It didn’t hit me how much I wish I had done this though until we went to Avalon where three other Bachelorette groups were, two which had all their bridesmaids in black. If I could have done something different this weekend, I would have had all my girls dress in sapphire blue to really show that we were a group out celebrating.

#13: Pace yourself when it comes to drinking

This is an important one that I think we all followed pretty well. Of course you want to drink and have a good time but if you don’t pace yourself, you’ll either be so wasted you won’t remember anything or you’ll pass out before the night is over. Neither of which is a fun option.

#14: Make sure to take lots of pictures and video with a good reliable camera

Once I got back to the hotel, I realized over half of the photos took that night came out blurry. I thought my Note 9 camera would have been good enough but I wish I had followed my gut and bought the vlogging camera I’ve been wanting for months, the canon m50, before this trip. I know if I did I would have gotten many more pictures and videos throughout the night and also much better quality ones.

#15: Make hangover kits

I had always planned to make next day hangover kits but time just got away from me and I never got them done. If this is something you would like to do, Pinterest has a ton of ideas on making the perfect ones! I was going to take a tumbler and customize each one with the girls name and than put in the tumbler Advil, gum, a hair tie, makeup remover wipes, tums, Pepto, band-aids and lotion.

#16: Create a special frame picture of the night

This was another Pinterest find that I wanted to do and then completely forgot to do it until I arrived. Basically, you take a white board and write or print out either Kiss the Miss goodbye or Kisses for the Future misses and than, using a Polaroid camera, you take pictures of each girl and than of yourself and each girl not only signs the board, but they also kiss it. Than you put the board in a picture frame. This is something i’m so mad I forgot to put together.

#17: Go to an Aquarium or zoo

On Sunday, we decided to have a chill day at the nearby Aquarium and it was so much fun. My girls and I are huge animal lovers so something like this was the perfect way to spend our last day celebrating together.

 

#18: Get Bridal Crew shirts

Another idea I had and wanted to do but never got to doing so. The buttons were perfect for Saturday night in our clubbing outfit but I wish I had gotten custom shirts done for Sunday’s adventures. It would have been a nice addition to our weekend and made for some really cute photos.

#19: Buy a souvenir(s) to symbolize your weekend

I’ve always wanted to collect something and I finally decided this past summer to collect shot glasses. So of course, I had to get a shot glass from each place we went to this weekend. Not only does it make a great addition to my collection, each time I look at those shot glasses, it will remind me of the amazing weekend I had with my girls! I did get a couple of other souvenirs, including this adorable Penguin backpack that I am absolutely in love with. I have been searching for the perfect penguin purse or backpack for years now and I finally found it in the Mystic Aquarium gift shop.

#20: Finish the weekend off with some food with your girls

Last but not least, finish off your girls weekend with some yummy food. My second favorite food is pizza so I was very happy to finally be able to get pizza from the Hollywood famous pizza place, Mystic Pizza. The pizza was really good and made me want to finally watch the movie my mother had always talked about.

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So there you have it, 20 tips for a kick-ass bachelorette weekend. Though it took a lot to organize, I am so happy with how everything came out! I hope you enjoyed this post, I certainly enjoyed writing it for all of you and reliving this weekend but now I want to hear from you! Do you have a tip that I forgot? Or maybe have a funny bachelorette experience you want to share? If so, drop a comment down below! 🙂

 

Until next time,

Kaylee D. ❤

 

10 Tips for an awesome Bridal Shower!

Hello my darlings! It seems like it has been forever since I posted on here and I truly do apologize! Between wedding planning and my new position at work, I’ve been so busy that I’ve hardly had time to just sit down and write for all of you! This weekend, however, was my semi-surprise bridal shower so of course I had to give you all a quick over view on how that went a long with some helpful tips that helped make my Bridal shower one that I will never forget! Since Tom and I have not found our own place yet, all our gifts are being stored at my grandma’s house but I do hope to do a post within the next week or so with an overview of some of my favorite gifts we received Saturday so if that is something you’re interested in reading about, just keep a watch on your email! 🙂

So to start off, I say semi-surprise because, despite my family’s effort at trying to keep the date a secret, my aunt slipped on vacation and said the date out loud. So I knew my shower was going to be on the 11th of August but I didn’t know where. My family decided to make me believe I had to go to my church before my shower to go to a blessing for my moms friends daughters son when in reality, I was going to be walking right into my shower without any idea this was the case. I won’t lie, I was so angry that morning about going to this “blessing” because I had so much to do to get ready for my shower. Which brings me to tip number one!

Tip #1: Wear a white dress

If, like me, you know what date your shower is, my suggestion for the bride to be would be to get a nice white dress that you feel comfortable but also beautiful in. It took me awhile, but I finally found this little beauty at Macy’s! It was exactly what I wanted, tight fitting and sparkly lace! For the first time in awhile, I actually felt beautiful which is exactly how you want to feel at your bridal shower! Plus, you’re only going to be a bride once so why not wear white every chance you get during pre-wedding events!

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Dress: https://www.macys.com/shop/product/sequin-hearts-juniors-sequined-lace-bodycon-dress?ID=6016875&CategoryID=18109#fn=sp%3D1%26spc%3D65%26ruleId%3D78%26kws%3Dwhite%20lace%20dress%26searchPass%3DexactMultiMatch%26slotId%3D16

Tip #2: Welcome all of your guests personally

Once I arrived and realized this was my shower, I went around to each one of my guests to welcome them and thank them for coming. I started with all my bridesmaids and then made my way around the room giving everyone a hug. I feel this is important because your loved ones took the time to come and celebrate you so it is only right to personally greet all of them and let them know how thankful you are that they came.

Tip #3: Either let your groom stay the whole time or invite them for presents and dessert

Traditionally, the bridal shower is meant for just the bride and the women invited to her wedding. However, I knew from the start I wanted Tom to be there to open up presents with me and enjoy our cake. When you think about it, these are gifts you and your partner registered for together and gifts you both are going to soon use in your new life as a married couple. It only makes sense that they get to experience the same excitement you have when opening all those presents for the first time. Tom wound up staying pretty much the whole time and I honestly wouldn’t have wanted it any other way!

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Tip #4: Buy special Bride and Groom cups or Tumblers

I may have a slight cup, mug, and tumbler problem but when I saw these exclusive bride and groom tumblers at Bed, Bath, and Beyond, I just knew I wanted them for my bridal shower. Having them that day just added another special touch to the shower and now we both have another tumbler we can use at home that will always remind us of that special day!

 

 

Tervis Bride and Groom Tumblers: https://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/store/product/tervis-reg-bride-groom-cheers-2-pack-wrap-tumblers-with-lids/5180197?skuId=65110690&mcid=PS_googlepla_brand_googleplascatchall_online&product_id=65110690&adtype=pla&product_channel=online&adpos=1o1&creative=45758750869&device=c&matchtype=&network=g&mrkgadid=2974383472&mrkgcl=609&rkg_id=0&gclid=CjwKCAjwwdTbBRAIEiwAYQf_E_ZV7QfQ-b9jJqtWMv8I1lxzlEzsJwx14SlDC44ziRu6_pzPqCRvkRoC3cIQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

Tip # 5: Have a special Bride Chair

This was such a cute and special touch that my mom thought of and I absolutely loved it! Since the bride is usually stuck in a chair basically the whole shower opening presents, my mom decided to buy me a special pink fluffy chair to sit in! That little touch really made me feel like a princess that day!

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Pink Butterfly Chair: https://www.kohls.com/product/prd-3278151/simple-by-design-sherpa-memory-foam-butterfly-chair.jsp?skuId=61023532&ci_mcc=ci&utm_campaign=ACCENT%20FURNITURE&utm_medium=CSE&utm_source=google&utm_product=61023532&CID=shopping15&utm_campaignid=174293612&pid=googleadwords_int&af_channel=CSE&gclid=CjwKCAjwwdTbBRAIEiwAYQf_E0wB9xwKpMUJwykmw1dW3TI3Dwb97_GLPT12shQBYxayeXAcftHFkRoCjQsQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds&dclid=COfngcTv8twCFaK5swodnpcGZA

Tip #6: Have unique present games such as The Story of us

This was definitely one of my favorite parts of my shower. My mom had found the idea online but took it up a notch by creating her own version. Basically, she wrote out a story which was the story of how Tom and I met but for 48 of the words, I had a present to open that corresponded with that word. Now these presents were just little items but it was such a cute idea and I loved how my mom was able to incorporate all of it but with the story of Tom and I.

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Tip # 7: Have someone you trust or even hired someone to take pictures

This was something I was so worried about but thankfully my cousin who was here visiting from Texas took a ton of amazing photos for me. You might not think having photos of you and your soon-to-be husband opening up your gifts or your shower decor would be important but years from now you’ll be happy you have photos of your special day.

 

 

Tip #8: If you have a lot of presents, considering doing dessert half way through to keep your guests interested.

We were very blessed to receive so many beautiful presents! My mom alone got us so many presents that it filled one table! So, not to cause our guests to become bored, we decided to break for cake before we opened up the presents from both his and my mother. Not only did it give the guests a chance to get up and mingle, it also gave Tom and I time to get up and stretch a bit before returning to our chairs to finish opening our gifts.

Tip #9: Have a slideshow playing during the shower

I was so happy my soon-to-be sister in law decided to create a slideshow because, as you all know, I just love pictures! Not only were there pictures of Tom and Me throughout our years of dating, but she also included pictures from our childhood which made for many “awh!” moments during the shower. My favorite part though was the pictures of me and my grandfather when I was a child. Since he passed away before I turned 13, having those pictures there made it feel like he was there with me on such a special day.

And finally, Tip #10: Remember to breathe and enjoy the day

Wedding planning is stressful and when it comes time for the bridal shower, it really hits you that very soon it’s going to be your wedding day. The bridal shower is the mark of that final stretch of something you’ve been planning and looking forward to for months. The most important tip of them all in my opinion is to just remember that today is your day, you should be enjoying it just as much as your guests. At one point, I was just sitting in my chair, watching my guests smiling. One of my bridesmaids asked me if I was enjoying the view and I just smiled and said I’m just taking all of this in. It’s not everyday your loved ones all come together to celebrate you. Cherish these moments.

So there you have it! My ten tips to make your Bridal Shower even more special! I hope you enjoyed this post and if there is any tip that you think should be added to this list, drop a comment down below! 🙂

Until next time,

Kaylee D. ❤

5 activities to do to bond with your bridesmaids!

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Hey everyone! I hope you all are having a wonderful weekend! Today, I finally got to meet up with some of my bridesmaids to go over things for the wedding because 2 weeks from Monday we will officially be at the 5 month mark! From the start, I knew I didn’t want to be a bride who only met with her bridesmaids once or twice before the wedding. Instead, I wanted to plan many different fun activities that we could do all together! Not only is it fun to do different things with your girls before the wedding but it also gives the girls a chance to bond and get to know each other if they haven’t met the other girls before. So for today’s blog post, I thought I would share with all of you 5 fun activities to do that will help you and your bridesmaids to bond!

 

  1. Trip to the Zoo

Everyone who knows me knows I absolutely love animals and love to go to the Bronx zoo. This is why I immediately knew I wanted to go to the zoo with my bridesmaids before the wedding. Going to the zoo is a great activity because let’s face it, who doesn’t love cute animals! Some zoo’s also have rope courses and zip lines for additional costs that really can help your bridesmaids grow closer and rely on each other.

 

  1. Paint and Sip

Two Fridays ago I got to experience my first paint and sip and I absolutely loved it! It was so much fun and I knew instantly this was something I would love to do with my bridesmaids. It’s a great activity to do with your bridesmaids because not only do you get to drink wine, you also get to be creative and create a beautiful painting that you get to bring home with you. It’s even better if the person running the event allows you to create your own image for everyone to create because it makes it very personal to you and your girls.

 

  1. Amusement park

Going to an amusement park ensures a full day of thrilling rides, yummy food, playing games and just overall fun! This is a good bridesmaids activity because, similar to the zoo, it’s something fun you can go to as a group. Also, with all the crazy wedding planning going on, being able to scream on roller coasters is a perfect way to release that built up tension and stress.

 

  1. Beach getaway

Now this is actually the plan for my bachelorette party! Instead of just a one night party, turning your bachelorette party into a full weekend away with the girls lets you not only have more time to bond with your bridesmaids but also allows for a whole weekend away from all the crazy wedding stress. A beach getaway is especially nice because during the day you have the beach to relax, swim and tan and than once it’s later in the day, you have the boardwalk which consists of cute stores, fun amusement parks and of course, yummy food! There are also usually clubs nearby, depending on the beach, that allow you and your girls to go out, drink, let loose, and just have fun dancing!

 

So there you have it, 5 fun activities to do with your bridesmaids! Now I want to hear from you, if you are already married, what is a fun activity you did to bond with your girls? And if you aren’t married yet, what’s a fun bridesmaid bonding activity that you would want to do? Leave your answer below in the comments and as always, I hope you enjoyed what I had to say!

 

Until next time my darlings,

            Kaylee D. ❤

5 tips/pieces of advice for wedding Save the dates!

Hello everyone! I hope you are all having a wonderful weekend! Today has been nothing but getting things done for the wedding for me. After watching Bridezillas last night (yup another guilty pleasure reality TV show) I pretty much had a breakdown realizing how much stuff Tom and I still have to do for the wedding so decided to dedicate all of today to wedding planning. The biggest thing I got accomplished today was finally printing out address labels and putting our save the dates in envelopes to be sent out. Because of this, I thought for today’s blog post, I would post my 5 tips/ pieces of advice when it comes to Save the Dates for your wedding. So if you’d like to hear them, continue reading. 🙂

  1. Choose a Magnet instead of just a card

            This is my biggest piece of advice when it comes to deciding on your save the dates. When Tom and I discussed what type of save the date we wanted, I knew right away I wanted a magnet. Unlike a card, a magnet is less likely to be lost or misplaced because once your guest receives it, they will more than likely put it on their fridge. This also helps to make sure your guest doesn’t forget your special day because every time they go to get something out of the refrigerator, they are reminded of when your wedding day is.

  1.    Design your save the date with your partner

        Or at least ask them first if they want to be included in the design process. You’ll be surprised at just how much your husband wants to be included when it comes to wedding details. Tom and I actually wound up having two different save the dates because my mother and I had designed one quickly when she had gotten a coupon to get 5 free magnets from Shutterfly. She received this coupon four more times and each time she did, she got 5 more magnets. It wasn’t until we had 20 magnets that I actually showed Tom our design and to my surprise, he did not like them at all. Since it was about the time we needed to send out our save the dates, Tom and I decided to create a new save the date magnet and together we came up with the perfect one. It worked out well though because we decided to send some of our guests, especially the children who are invited, the ones my mother and I created and send the rest the ones that me and him made together. Since the ones my mom got were free, it really wasn’t a big deal but if you spend money on save the dates that you like and find out your partner doesn’t like them once they arrive, you could lose money and cause an unnecessary argument with your spouse to be.

  1.  Use Shutterfly (Not a sponsor!)

My mom and I are a fan of all Shutterfly products, especially their photo books, so when Tom and I had to get our save the dates, my mom immediately suggested we check out Shutterfly and I’m so happy we did. Shutterfly not only has a ton of different templates that are easily customizable but also have very reasonable prices. Shutterfly also constantly has deals going on and once you order from them once, they will start to send you multiple coupons for free and discounted products (minus the shipping). As a bride on a budget, I highly recommend Shutterfly for your save the dates as well as other Wedding stationary you may need. Below you will see both the save the dates we used and I will also include the link to Shutterfly for both of the templates at the end of this post in case you guys like them and want to use them for your own save the dates! 

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This is the one Tom and I designed together
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This is the one my mom and I designed
  1. Either order or print out address labels

Tom and I didn’t order address labels because we just figured we would write out the addresses but unless you have super neat handwriting, I highly don’t recommend this. As soon as we started to write out the addresses, it was clear to us that we just couldn’t send out our wedding save the dates like that. Not only was our handwriting messy but writing out 65 or so addresses was too time consuming and tiring. Instead, Tom picked up some address labels and by using a mail merge in Microsoft Word, we printed out all of our addresses out on labels. This made the process much easier and faster because all I simply had to do was peel each label and put it on the envelope. So if you want to save time and hand cramping, either order or print out your own address labels and skip the handwriting.

  1. Make your save the date short and sweet

Think of the save the date as the preview for the wedding invitation. The only real important information that should be included is your wedding date (duh) and the name of the place you are getting married.  The save the date also doesn’t have to be, and shouldn’t be, as elegant and fancy as your future wedding invitation. So make your save the date fun and maybe include a picture (or two or three) of the two of you. This puts that personalized touch into your save the date that your guests are going to love.

So there you have it, my 5 tips/pieces of advice when it comes to save the dates! Do you have anything to add to this list? If so, drop a comment down below, I would love to hear it! Otherwise, I hope you guys enjoyed this post and if you want to be notified every time I post something new, hit that follow button! 🙂

Until next time my darlings,

Kaylee D. ❤

 

Link to the save the date Tom and I designed-

https://www.shutterfly.com/cards-stationery/save-the-date/romantic-type-save-the-date-stationerymagnet?productCode=1257984&categoryCode=60412&skuCode=1257985

Link to the save the date my mom and I designed-

https://www.shutterfly.com/photo-gifts/magnets/love-connection-magnet?productCode=1102412&categoryCode=1084048&skuCode=1102413